HappyDaze wrote: ↑Sat Jun 03, 2023 8:34 pm
I would call the day a success, MJ. I had to shush my mother twice during the ceremony - once when they said the groom's uncle was coming up to make some remarks and she said "well I hope they're brief" and the people in front of us turned around and looked to see who said it. I was mortified. The second time was when she said "damn funny this is supposed to be an adults only event and there are 5 kids in the wedding party. OY!!
Then they did pictures while the guests had appetizers. My parents were well behaved during the photos.
Then my dad wandered so I wandered to follow him. He went to the big outdoor kitchen where the caterers were putting the finishing touches on the meal and asked them when it would be ready and if they needed any help.
Then after we ate he said he was cold and was going to go sit in the car. The car was locked and about a quarter mile away. I told him if he would wait till the speeches were done we could leave - but he got up and wandered again. I went after him and said GIVE ME THREE MINUTES TO SAY SOME GOODBYES AND WE WILL GO. So we left.
All the way home they complained about how the wedding "wasn't right" - there were no ushers seating people, no gift table, they had too many attendants (12 bridesmaids, 12 groomsmen, 2 ring bearers, 2 flower girls), they had to wait too long for their food, they didn't like the food, there were too many FAT PEOPLE there (I kid you not).
As soon as we got back to my house they got in their car and left - thank goodness, I don't think I would take any more of them tonight!!
My MIL's sister (we'll call her LM, for loudmouth) is a horrid piece of work who, thankfully, lives very far away.
MIL's step granddaughter, with whom she was(is? maybe) close, got married. Her half-sister, MIL's then 17 y.o. bio granddaughter, was one of 2 attendants.
LM was very vocal regarding the attendant granddaughter and her mother (she's mom to both girls) - "I thought they said they were going to lose weight for this!" During the ceremony, as the attendants are coming in, "[Granddaughter] sure is fat!" Loud enough everyone there, and likely next door, heard it.
MIL's son and the girls' mother had enough and after the ceremony told LM they were sick of her and for her to get out. MIL took LM and both their husbands home. And didn't come back. She paid for most of that event, made centerpieces, etc., helped decorate - then stayed home and missed the reception and photos because of her loudmouthed sister. I would have dropped LM and her hubby at the curb and said 'see you later!' then went back for the party.
While the youngest of the girls is fairly large, their mother is totally normal; fit-looking. LM, for her part, is huge.
Everyone in our household agrees that if/when either of our children marry, LM doesn't need to know about it. If MIL doesn't like that, she can go visit LM and skip the festivities.