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I love it, and he hit the nail on the head, that it's a matter of respect!!!
Not to DH bash but...... I asked DH to hold BB's leash for me so that I could bring some boxes into the house. DH did do it, but not without a lot of fussing about it.
DH thought that what I asked him to do was stupid, I told him that he should do it because I asked him to.
I didn't want to put BB out in the backyard because it is hot. And BB is a runner, and I am the one who has to run after her. It would have been hard for me to hold the leash and bring the 12 boxes it, they are heavy so it was one by one.
I also told DH that when he asks me to do something for him I do it!!!
Today I was in the backyard reading and DH asked me to go upstairs and turn the window A/C on for him. Remember that DH is still using a walker, but we have a stair lift for him, he could have done it himself, and I do understand that it was much easier for me to do it then him, but still, please show me the same resect, :
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Put very well, it's a matter of respect !!!
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I can relate. As I try to determine my part in my divorce, I feel as if his spending was very disrespectful and started a spiral of behaviors...
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Yes, I can relate too.
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Re: Put very well, it's a matter of respect !!!
I think that most married/divorced people on here would probably agree that its a matter of respect... I certainly do.
I could do some DH bashing too, but I think that I've already said waaaayyyyyyy too much in times past.
I think that my Dh feels that since he brings in the money, then his part in this household is 200% completed -- no need to help wife with household chores (but he nags PLENTY if I don't do something quickly or thoroughly enough) or yardwork, even though its well past dark when I come in at night to find him & children watching TV. I could get angry over that, but usually I don't have the energy for it -- and lately I just choose to go clean up and take a few minutes to read, which helps sweep away the stress of the day.
IMHO, marriage is a partnership, and we both need to work equally to take care of home, family, and all chores resulting from both. But right now, that's just a dream for me, because I don't have that equal partnership.
I could do some DH bashing too, but I think that I've already said waaaayyyyyyy too much in times past.
I think that my Dh feels that since he brings in the money, then his part in this household is 200% completed -- no need to help wife with household chores (but he nags PLENTY if I don't do something quickly or thoroughly enough) or yardwork, even though its well past dark when I come in at night to find him & children watching TV. I could get angry over that, but usually I don't have the energy for it -- and lately I just choose to go clean up and take a few minutes to read, which helps sweep away the stress of the day.
IMHO, marriage is a partnership, and we both need to work equally to take care of home, family, and all chores resulting from both. But right now, that's just a dream for me, because I don't have that equal partnership.