sometimes it's just time to let a friendship go :-(

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MackerelCat
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I love how people know why I'm fat, and how easy it is to lose weight, HA.

Can't get quote box to work right on the tablet, but my primary physician is one of those people. He's naturally as skinny as a greyhound. I am built like an English bulldog, and hoping some day his metabolism gives up and he has a weight problem.
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I am fat too and struggle to lose weight all the time. The few times I managed to be a think adult were so stressful the weight loss didn't last. For many of us that ship sailed once we got older and had kids. Thankfully I have a doctor who doesn't badger me about it...he knows I try my best.
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MackerelCat wrote:I love how people know why I'm fat, and how easy it is to lose weight, HA.

Can't get quote box to work right on the tablet, but my primary physician is one of those people. He's naturally as skinny as a greyhound. I am built like an English bulldog, and hoping some day his metabolism gives up and he has a weight problem.
When we met DH was so thin that I could feel his bones, giving him lots of criet
he NEVER has said anything about my weight. Once though he did ask me once why I didn't just not eat, whatever it was. But it was not snarky, it was a real question.

Well it has caught up with him and now he understands it is not easy.

it should be "eat less, exercise more" LOL My mother said that she would rather be fat then hungry. She was overweight, but not obese. 8-)

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SandiSAHM wrote:Regarding telling other people what/how to eat...

I have Celiac Disease. For over a decade of pain and illness, it was misdiagnosed. Once a REAL doctor who had a real clue (I moved to another state, a larger city, and a gastro who wasn't afraid to scope, snip, run DNA, etc), I rarely have pain or illness and when I do I can usually track it back to not having been adequately cautious.

Once in a buffet line with some acquaintances, I took only salad, brought my own dressing, etc., because I've been 'glutened' before and it's 3-7 days of h3ll so I avoid it. Smart@ss acquaintance behind me says, "you know, a lot of that gluten stuff is in your mind."

I looked at him and said, loudly, "Oh! You're RIGHT! What was I THINKING seeing medical specialists? All those years I was sick, what I was really missing was the opinion of an electrical engineer!" and turned back to my salad.

He hasn't said much to me since. Oddly enough, I don't miss him, not even a little.
I feel for you having to deal with people like that.. I am gluten intolerant not celiac. I was trying to figure out if food allergy could be causing me pain with my arthritis/fibro. I was talking to an arthritis specialists about what I was doing. He said, " oh do what you need to to feel better, wear a copper bracelet, and some others that were popular at the time.. Then he said "or dance by the light of the moon if that helps! " That was many years ago before I finally found out on my own that gluten causes me severe fibro pain. When I went gluten free my family would say go ahead and eat it it just has a little bit of flour in it.. Now my brother has gone gluten free and dariy free.. They understand now how a little bit of something can cause a lot of pain and problems. Good for you standing up for yourself and so what if he was hurt.. He hurt you first and it was uncalled for.. Janet Alliesmama
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My best friend from college was like a sister to me. Her kids even called me Aunt Janet. I do not know why she no longer returns my calls. Since I moved here, for the first time in our lives, we live only about 5 minutes apart Before we lived in different towns that were at least a 45 min to an hour drive away. We saw each other a couple of times a month if not more. Talked on the phone almost every day. My SIL has run in to her in several places and always gives her my telephone number since she says she has lost my telephone number.She never calls. Not sure if she is jealous that I live a much nicer home than she does or what has happened. Before she always had the nice home and a husband.. Now living with her SO in a house that is not as big or fancy as she use to have with her DH. Told my SIL to not to bother to give her my telephone number if she sees her again since she is not interested..Sad! Janet Alliesmama
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alliesmama4 wrote:I feel for you having to deal with people like that.. I am gluten intolerant not celiac. I was trying to figure out if food allergy could be causing me pain with my arthritis/fibro. I was talking to an arthritis specialists about what I was doing. He said, " oh do what you need to to feel better, wear a copper bracelet, and some others that were popular at the time.. Then he said "or dance by the light of the moon if that helps! " That was many years ago before I finally found out on my own that gluten causes me severe fibro pain. When I went gluten free my family would say go ahead and eat it it just has a little bit of flour in it.. Now my brother has gone gluten free and dariy free.. They understand now how a little bit of something can cause a lot of pain and problems. Good for you standing up for yourself and so what if he was hurt.. He hurt you first and it was uncalled for.
You're so sweet! He didn't hurt me, he just irritated me. It's okay, he's not the first ;)

I had some arthritis starting in the big joint of one foot, my primary care guy declared it to be arthritis - but less than 30 days after I cut out all gluten, the pain was gone, and it's never come back.

The genetic link is why our kids eat 90-95% gluten free (they can have what they want outside the house, or when at a friend's house, but we eat 'clean' at home), I've got it, and with DH being predominantly Irish (a propensity), we know they're probably predisposed. Ounce of prevention; pound of cure.
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