Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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ownedbydogs
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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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So sorry to hear of your father’s passing.

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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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Oh My Gosh, everyone! Jan was finally able to get an email through to me (dang computers) to let me know about this thread. I am humbled by all of your condolences and have to admit to being a bit teary-eyed as I read. As an only child, I was more than a little "daddy's little girl". Dad has fought for almost three years after my mom died to be there for his family. None of us expected him to make it past the funeral of his love. For the past month he has been telling me that he thought he was going to die soon. Of course I pounced on him, "What's wrong, what hurts". He felt fine (well except for the left sided paralysis from a stroke last August that put him into skilled nursing). He just had a feeling. On March 11th my Aunt had visited him and they had a great time playing cards. He beat her in two games. That night the nursing facility locked down due to the pandemic. Nobody could go in or out. I called dad to tell him that we would not be able to come to see him. He asked for how long. I told him nobody knew. The next morning they found he had a low grade temp less than 100 with no other symptoms of illness. This continued until Saturday when he became unresponsive. They ran all kinds of tests to determine a cause. Nothing showed. He was not "sick", just declining rapidly. Sunday he was put on Hospice and in three days he was gone. I firmly believe that hearing of the lockdown and losing contact with the people he was living for made him give up. I can't blame him, it must be so lonely for all of those in nursing homes and hospitals at this time. A few weeks ago he told me, "When I die I don't want you to be sad...I will be with your mother." I'm trying hard to remember that he is with her, no longer impaired in any way, and spending forever together.

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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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Jusmom1 wrote:
Fri Mar 27, 2020 11:18 am
Oh My Gosh, everyone! Jan was finally able to get an email through to me (dang computers) to let me know about this thread. I am humbled by all of your condolences and have to admit to being a bit teary-eyed as I read. As an only child, I was more than a little "daddy's little girl". Dad has fought for almost three years after my mom died to be there for his family. None of us expected him to make it past the funeral of his love. For the past month he has been telling me that he thought he was going to die soon. Of course I pounced on him, "What's wrong, what hurts". He felt fine (well except for the left sided paralysis from a stroke last August that put him into skilled nursing). He just had a feeling. On March 11th my Aunt had visited him and they had a great time playing cards. He beat her in two games. That night the nursing facility locked down due to the pandemic. Nobody could go in or out. I called dad to tell him that we would not be able to come to see him. He asked for how long. I told him nobody knew. The next morning they found he had a low grade temp less than 100 with no other symptoms of illness. This continued until Saturday when he became unresponsive. They ran all kinds of tests to determine a cause. Nothing showed. He was not "sick", just declining rapidly. Sunday he was put on Hospice and in three days he was gone. I firmly believe that hearing of the lockdown and losing contact with the people he was living for made him give up. I can't blame him, it must be so lonely for all of those in nursing homes and hospitals at this time. A few weeks ago he told me, "When I die I don't want you to be sad...I will be with your mother." I'm trying hard to remember that he is with her, no longer impaired in any way, and spending forever together.
I, too, am very sorry about the loss of your beloved Father, Lin. My sincerest condolences to you, and I will keep you in my prayers.
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In rereading your above comment, I am reminded about my own Dad's passing several years ago. He wanted us all to not mourn him but to remember all the happy & good times we all had together. He was 10 years without my Mom, so I'm grateful he is no longer worn down by the pain from his back injuries and lung/bone cancers.

((Hugs)) to you.

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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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Dear Lin and family,
I am so sorry to hear about your dad, it's hard I know.
I know you wanted military rites for him and now that can't happen but every time a plane flies over, just look up and imagine its a flyover in honor of your dad.
JCKitty

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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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Jusmom1 wrote:
Fri Mar 27, 2020 11:18 am
Oh My Gosh, everyone! Jan was finally able to get an email through to me (dang computers) to let me know about this thread. I am humbled by all of your condolences and have to admit to being a bit teary-eyed as I read. As an only child, I was more than a little "daddy's little girl". Dad has fought for almost three years after my mom died to be there for his family. None of us expected him to make it past the funeral of his love. For the past month he has been telling me that he thought he was going to die soon. Of course I pounced on him, "What's wrong, what hurts". He felt fine (well except for the left sided paralysis from a stroke last August that put him into skilled nursing). He just had a feeling. On March 11th my Aunt had visited him and they had a great time playing cards. He beat her in two games. That night the nursing facility locked down due to the pandemic. Nobody could go in or out. I called dad to tell him that we would not be able to come to see him. He asked for how long. I told him nobody knew. The next morning they found he had a low grade temp less than 100 with no other symptoms of illness. This continued until Saturday when he became unresponsive. They ran all kinds of tests to determine a cause. Nothing showed. He was not "sick", just declining rapidly. Sunday he was put on Hospice and in three days he was gone. I firmly believe that hearing of the lockdown and losing contact with the people he was living for made him give up. I can't blame him, it must be so lonely for all of those in nursing homes and hospitals at this time. A few weeks ago he told me, "When I die I don't want you to be sad...I will be with your mother." I'm trying hard to remember that he is with her, no longer impaired in any way, and spending forever together.

Oh, Lin, your lovely daddy ! So glad he was able to reassure you he will be with your mother. I remember those fantastic personal quilts you made for your family, who was the Shoes one for ? Thanks for posting,big hugs. I no longer have a personal email ( I know we used to email ) and haven't had one for probably a year or so now s can't contact you at all other than on here. But sending personal sympathy, I am so sorry for your loss, what a good person you are x

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Re: Condolences to Lin ( Jusmom ) on the loss of her DF

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Lin I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I am sending my condolences to your entire family.

Penny

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