Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Dgflorida
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Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Good morning all. Let's get started.

LogicsHere
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Re: Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Good morning all.

The next few days here will see isolated thunderstorms. They're due, we could use the rain.

My sister and I had a more serious conversation yesterday about her plans for the future including the probability of her eventually coming back up north to live with me. She does have plans to see if she can make it on her own for awhile, 2 maybe 3 years (maybe longer, who knows - - - we could hit a big lottery :)), and I think she should try if she can as it will help her feel better about herself. But I know she doesn't want to end up working forever and that's really the only way she could stay afloat unless she moves into senior housing which still is pretty costly even in Florida and not that much less per month than what she is paying now, maybe about $200 a month. And then there's the car payment of $300/mo that she has for at least another year. And then there's the loneliness factor. My sister has never lived alone and she's having a hard time of it right now. I try to support her by telling her what she's feeling is normal and that it will get easier to handle with time. Whether she does or not, however, will be up to her. She's also been talking about participating in some of her community's activities once they come back from this "virus" thing. She asked a neighbor she's friendly with and their management said planned activities won't resume yet as people don't want to be responsible about it. What also hurts her is that she has absolutely no interests. She'll "play" on the computer a bit but other than that nothing.

Her daughter can't help her, she lives in her own little "bubble" and can't take care of herself or her son without help. And my sister's son "might" help, but I don't think she would ask him especially since he has to build a future for himself as well since he's, divorced 3 years, and 47 now and just getting started planning for retirement. She did say she wished my place was larger, and I over the years have wished it as well, but we lived in 4 small rooms with our parents growing up. We had even shared a bedroom with our parents until I was 13 when they moved into the living room with sofa beds. We grew up with very little. If we need to do it again, we can.

As for her temperment, I know it has a lot to do with the life she's had and a ton of continual stress basically due to the lack of money. But take away the money problems and I think she'd be OK. Would it be easy, especially since I've lived alone most of my life, yes and no. But I'm far more flexible than my sister so I think it could balance itself out to a point. Anyway I had pretty much expected there could very well be a possibility that she might end up together again. Now knowing that it's slightly more than a 50/50 chance I can gradually prepare myself and my apartment for it.

Tonight's meal is simple, Campbell's Sirloin Beef Chunky soup; not sure whether I'll just have the soup or pour it over some buttered noodles which is also a possibility.

Today's designated day comes as a surprise, International Widows Day. International Widows Day is a United Nations sponsored day. It's dedicated to encouraging countries and organizations around the world to strive to eliminate poverty and injustice suffered by millions of widows and their dependents. WE don't aknowledge it much here in the U.S. despite the fact that it is a problem, but it is even more serious in the impoverished and developing countries.

The UN resolution called upon "Member States, the United Nations system and other international and regional organizations, to give special attention to the situation of widows and their children." According to their estimate, there are over 258 million widows worldwide.

Have a wonderful day.

Dgflorida
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Re: Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Good morning all,

That was weird. It posted twice, but an easy delete of the duplicate. Another lovely day starting up in Florida. But a hot one. Temperatures of over 95F with a heat index pushing towards 110F. Good time to stay inside. Early morning watering and then off to do some shopping. Hubs likes the sugar free gelatin mix available at Big Lots, so going to visit there today and buy all they have most likely. Gas prices are dropping a bit, so watching for a good buy.

I saw a report on TV that thrift stores are getting a lot more donations than usual, probably due to people staying home and going through their stuff. So, I will be visiting several of them next couple of week most likely since it takes time to sort and get stuff out. I used to do volunteer work for a thrift shop which funded a women's center. Usually it took us a week to get all the stuff donated on the previous week/weekend. The shop was recommended by the abused children protection agency I worked for. I've been toying with the idea of volunteering at a foster shelter. I contacted them and they would welcome my help, but I am swamped here at home right now.

I read about some really neat projects with left over tiles last night. A renter left some here and I have been wondering how to use them. Waste not. Want not.

Today, I am grateful that according to my retinal specialist, my vision has improved to 20/20 again. I love looking at my garden and watching the butterflies. Have a good day all.

Dgflorida
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Re: Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Thanks for the information on Widow's Day, logics. It is sad that there is really no place for widows anywhere in the world, it seems. I have read many accounts of how poorly widows are treated. I know many widows who are trapped financially. Several would like to remarry, but can't afford to do it. It seems sad to trap women financially into loneliness that way. Thanks, Logics, for posting about Widow's day. It is a problem everywhere.

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Re: Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Good morning fellow frugalites,

Looks like today will be a lovely one. The outside temperature is almost to where it was before the cooling trend. My walk is going to be wonderful.

Got a call from the hospital here in town while we were dealing with the car. I have a good idea that it is about the blood work the doctor wants me to have. I will give them a call when they open up this morning. Pretty sure it is a fasting test, so I won't be able to go in until tomorrow.....

Sticking close to home today, I will be making a list to spend a portion of the gift card at our grocery store on Thursday. I want to spend it wisely and in the best possible way. I figure buying meat to stock the freezer will be a great idea. So I will search the fliers for the best sales.

This car scares me, too many buttons to push or pull out. Too much to remember, and the radio goes whacky every time I shut it off. I guess I will have to pull out the book and go over things as I sit behind the wheel. I even think my phone which we bluetoothed disconnected. Sighs, another learning curve happening here.

Today will be spent getting a couple of yesterdays chores completed and of course accomplishing todays household tasks as well. I am hoping to only have one more spend day this month, and finish off the month with a higher frugality than has happened over the last few days.

I am also going to see where we can trim the budget a bit more. I am pretty sure we could save a bit on water/sewer/infrastructure/recycle and garbage pick up (mostly the water portion the rest is pretty much set in stone) and in electric/natural gas costs. I foresee more appliance cooking in our future.

Supper this evening is going to be the last package of leftover ham. I think a ham casserole done in the microwave (my ham and scalloped potato one) sounds pretty darn good. Serving it with some broccoli that I got at Costco.

Joy today is in knowing that by the time (or if) a second wave of the virus hits we will be ready.

Everybody have a great day. Take care.

clemencia2us
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Re: Daily check in June 23, 2020

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Good morning all

Took another day off from walking. All that lifting yesterday wore me out. And my walking partner has had lots of medical appointments. She's a fairly recent widow and is now taking the time to get her health in order. All that gets pushed aside when you are responsible for the 24/7 care of another.

So today will chillax and maybe sort out the bags of clothes and shoes?

We can only hope - :roll:

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